I was asked to write about “finding ways to be the best version of you”
But my instantaneous first response was in the form of 4 questions…
- “How do you know you aren’t already the best version of yourself?”
- “Do you have some kind of ‘Best Version of Myself’ checklist which you are comparing yourself to?”
- “If so what’s on it?”
- “Are you seeing indicators, convincing proofs, evidence if you would call it that of when you are the best version of you or simply focusing on when you sense you are not?”
Being the best version of yourself by definition is a very personal thing. Human nature often means we will compare ourselves to those we think are better than us and that therefore our ‘story’ is insignificant in comparison and that perhaps we have nothing to say and nothing to offer.
Alternatively we may believe we have been on this earth for X amount of years and are experienced, professional and successful and that we should therefore be able to handle life and all that it throws at us better… so why can’t we at times?
Surely if you were the best version of yourself you’d be able to, right?
But what if being the best version of you is also accepting that you can’t handle everything? That there will be times when you feel low or despondent or sad or overwhelmed. And that actually being the best version of you understands that, but also knows that you don’t have to stay in that ‘place’ or in that ‘mood’ or in that ‘feeling’ and can move on from it to an even better place.
Have you ever wondered when you are, or indeed where you are, what you might call the best version of yourself?
Is it at the gym, playing a sport, running a meeting, negotiating, networking, as a parent, with family, in a relationship, in business… or indeed in a sub section of these? I.e. you are the best version of yourself in a meeting but only certain types and with certain people.
And have you considered when and where you aren’t the best version of you?
What are the differences in YOU at these times?
What are the differences in your Thoughts, your Feelings, your Actions and your Results?
So to bring things full circle let me finish where I started.
“How do you know you aren’t already the best version of yourself?”
and perhaps more importantly –
“How will you know when you are?”
11 top tips for finding the best version of yourself:
- Be kind to yourself.
- Remember you are a work in progress that actually will never be finished.
- Understand what being the best version of yourself means to you.. and what it doesn’t
- Talk to people, a trusted friend or perhaps a skilled professional – get yourself a sounding board.
- Give yourself permission to be the best version of yourself.
- Look for patterns of when you think you aren’t – once identified they can be worked on.
- Look for patterns of when you think you are- once identified they can be enhanced and consciously replayed.
- Give yourself permission to be OK with not being the best version of yourself.
- Be honest with yourself.
- Put yourself in situations and circumstances that make you look deeper into yourself.
- Have fun exploring being the best version of yourself.
If you want help in helping to find the best version of yourself, contact me now.
A guest post authored by the late David Jessop, The Outsourcing Way Founding Resident Expert
A Life and Success Coach between 2002-2019, Dave worked in the Corporate world, with SMEs, in the Education Sector and with a range of private clients.